A lot of times I get stuck thinking that guys get the raw deal in the dating process.

Guys are expected plan, prepare, and pay for a date, while the girls just go along for the ride. If the date is a flop it’s his fault because, after all, he planned it. The guys stick their necks out to ask for the ladies company and risk all kinds of humiliation (although at the same time finding out that she wasn’t a girl worth the time anyway). Many times it’s enough for guys to simply say, “forget it”, and save their money for a time when things are less risky.

But I realized something about the girls, the girls who are worth a guys time (and alot of it), who would be alot of fun, except for the small detail that they just don’t think of him “that way”. These girls, whose nature it is to be kind and sweet and charitable, are put in a postition where they have to finally say “no” or risk leading someone on (which they would never do). Knowing full well that he is anxious to spend time with her, she must look into his eyes (or at very least tell him over the phone) and explain that she would go … but she doesn’t think she should.

In the initial stages of dating, while the guys may take the risk of sticking themselves out on a limb, it’s the girls that have to do what they think is right and risk hurting someone they would never want to.

I may not like my station in the dating world, but I don’t think the alternative is any better.

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